Monday, September 23, 2024

Calling A Spade A Spade

Speaking the truth as it is, without hiding behind polite half-truths, takes courage. That’s what “calling a spade a spade” really means. In a world where people often soften or avoid reality to keep the peace, honest words can feel rare, but they’re deeply valuable.

Why is it Important?

Truth builds trust. When we name things as they are, people know where we stand. It saves time, reduces confusion, and helps us address real issues instead of avoiding them. Honest conversations make relationships and decisions healthier.

But Is There An Art of Doing It?

Of Course, Yes! It can damage relations if it is not done with empathy or an understanding of the perspective of the person receiving the feedback. Calling a spade a spade doesn’t mean being harsh. There’s a way to be truthful without hurting someone's self-worth:

  • Speak with empathy: Be mindful of the other person’s feelings.

  • Choose your words carefully: Firm but respectful language works better than blunt attacks.

  • Check your intent: Ask yourself, “Am I saying this to help or just to hurt?”

  • Be willing to face your own truths: Honest self-reflection makes your words more authentic.

Calling a spade a spade is not about being blunt for the sake of it; it’s about being honest in a way that leads to trust, understanding, and positive change. Otherwise, the whole point of giving feedback can become futile and can damage situations.

Friday, September 6, 2024

The Teacher’s Journey: Reflections Beyond Teacher’s Day

The 5th of September just passed; a date etched in the hearts of many of us as Teacher’s Day. I still remember the celebrations in school: in the younger grades, we watched our seniors step into the shoes of teachers for a day, and by the time I reached Class 12, I too got to “teach” for one morning. Back then, it felt like a day of fun; no studies, laughter, and some speeches on the role of teachers and the life of Dr. Sarvepalli Radhakrishnan.

Stories from My Grandmother

My grandmother often told me stories of her visits to her very own uncle (mama), Dr. Sarvepalli Radhakrishnan — the first Vice President of India, a philosopher, and above all, a teacher. She would speak of her visits to him and observing his warmth, brilliance, and ability to connect with people. As a child, these were just fascinating family tales. But as I grew up and read about his life and philosophy, I realized the immense legacy I was blessed to be connected with.

When I was invited this year to speak about Dr. Radhakrishnan to students, I dived deeper into his thoughts. I finally understood why he placed such profound importance on teachers: because teaching is not just a profession, it is a calling to shape the conscience of a generation.

The Realities of a Teacher’s Life

And yet, being a teacher today comes with struggles that are often invisible:

  • I am expected to look a certain way: put on lipstick, dye my hair, even if the chemicals harm me.

  • I must reach school not even a minute late, while other professions allow flexibility.

  • If a class misbehaves, I cannot openly discuss it; instead, whispers circulate that I “don’t know how to handle students.”

  • On my very first day in school, a student asked: “If you have a doctorate from IIT, why are you teaching in a school? Isn’t that low?”

  • After qualifying for NET and joining as a lecturer, even my own Master’s guide seemed disappointed that I had chosen teaching instead of research.

It made me wonder: Why is the teaching profession seen as “low” by so many?

Teaching: A Sacred Responsibility

Teaching, in reality, is far from “low.” It is perhaps one of the highest responsibilities one can carry. Because being a teacher is not just about delivering lessons; it is about living ideals. Children do not just listen to our words; they watch our lives.

In today’s world, where social media and entertainment often make slipping morals look “cool,” the role of a teacher is even more critical. It is not enough to preach values; we must embody them. Otherwise, our conscience will not let us rest.

A Gentle Reminder

Dr. Radhakrishnan believed that teachers are the true nation-builders. He saw teaching as a bridge between knowledge and wisdom, between ideals and action.

Yes, the profession may not always come with applause, but it comes with something deeper: the quiet satisfaction of shaping lives, of helping young minds see that ideals are not just theories but living truths.

This Teacher’s Day, as I reflect on my journey, I carry forward the words of my great-uncle not just as philosophy, but as a responsibility: to teach, to live with integrity, and to show children that wisdom, kindness, and courage will always matter.

 Teaching may not be glamorous, but the joy I feel when I see a child’s eyes sparkle with understanding, curiosity, or enthusiasm is priceless. Each moment of connecting with their innocence fills my day with meaning and nothing else can truly compare to that!